Love is like a glass bottle….it’s better to leave it broken then to keep hurting yourself trying to put it back together.
Do you feel suffocated in your relationship? Have you been adjusting for so many days, but its not getting any better? Well, hanging relationship does no good; it messes up things all the more. If the relationship is not working for you, break-up with her. It is better to get over with it and move on. Although, dumping the one you loved is not easy, for rejection hurts everyone. But, if break up is done the right way it will make things easy for both of you. Read on to discover some of the best ways to make the break-up less painful for her.
Seven Dumping Don’ts
Avoid the slow fades - Rip it off at once
Don’t follow the slow cut down strategy, rather break it up right away. Emotional abuse is a slow poison that pains much more than a bullet fire! In fact, slow fades can backfire in case of people who cannot tolerate a ‘No’. Reducing the number of calls or not responding to her calls would leave her baffled. Instead, just rip off the relationship like a band-aid and it will pain just once.
Don’t be harsh – Give your personal touch
Ripping off doesn’t mean that you should shock her over phone or via e-mail. An SMS can be rather worst. Nobody likes to see a message, “Hi! U have just been dumped, so enjoy the independence”. Meet her in person and tell her directly why you can’t carry on with the relationship. She needs an explanation to the break-up. Don’t let her keep wondering about what went wrong.
Breaking-up is not walking off – Give her some time
Once you have told her, don’t expect an immediate reaction. She has just got the shock of her life, so give her time to realize what has happened and let her react. Don’t just blurt out and bug off. Be patient, calm and considerate!
Public places are for dating – break-up in private
Never do the dumping karma in public; it will be tough for both of you. Girls are sensitive and generally burst out with emotions. She might get ablaze and may cry out loud. So, to avoid any scenes, choose an appropriate place where you can have the desired privacy.
Don’t be a deaf to what she wants to say - listen to her patiently
You have already made up your mind to break-up the relation and given her your piece of mind. Now, let her express too. Don’t just be a numb dumb! Listen to what she has to say and settle down things calmly. This will be helpful in a long run, for both of you.
Don’t retract from your statement – Be firm
She’ll cry and yell, that is, but natural because she is hurt and grossed out. Don’t move from your statement because you sympathize with her. Remember the relationship has not worked for you guys. Taking the relationship further will only skirt the issues and would do no good to either of you. Don’t jerk her around because you feel bad for her. You will just increase hassles by this.
Don’t list the shortcomings – End it with a positive note
Be kind and courteous while ending the relationship. Tell her that you enjoyed the time together, but you are seeking the right partner and your search is still on. Point out her positive attributes and end the things on a positive note. This would help you get away of the guilt and would leave no hard feelings with her too.
Dumping is an upsetting karma and everyone hates it, be it the dumper or the dumpee. But, time is the best healer; love the best medicine. Although, your relationship didn’t work, but don’t lose confidence. Keep your dream of having an adorable partner alive. You can still attract women and make them fall in love with you. Follow the 12 simple rules of finding a date and have the perfect woman for yourself.
All the Best!
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